Women and men all fantasise about sex. In fact it’s a national pastime and a very pleasant way to waste a bit of time at work when you are bored. When it comes to actual sex, men and women are very different. Men prefer visual stimulation whereas a woman’s sexual desire is very much rooted in the cerebellum.
For women, sexual fantasy is important. We use the images in our head to aid arousal, and if our partner is not doing it for us, a quick trip into fantasy land can be just the ticket to get our motor running. So what are the top six women’s erotic fantasies and is yours on that list?
Fifty Shades of Grey
Women have always had a strong desire to be dominated in the bedroom, which is why the traditional ‘alpha male’ is a perennially popular choice of mate. With the release of the Fifty Shades books, followed by a movie, our fantasies are now in full technicolour and have been embellished with all kinds of interesting accessories.
The rape fantasy is more common than most women would like to admit. In real life, rape is a repellent act of gross violation, but in fantasy land, being taken against our will by a stranger is hugely erotic. It is also something you can try out as part of a role play session.
Three in a Bed
Threesomes never go out of vogue. After all, what woman wouldn’t want to be the centre of attention of two men, or if she prefers, be able to enjoy the attentions of another sexy female. Lots of women also love the idea of watching their man be sexual with another woman, as long as the female is someone they can trust. A massage Montreal is great in this regard: you can both enjoy the company of a hot, sexy woman with no threat to your relationship.
To see and be seen is an ensuring sexual fantasy for both men and women. Women like the idea of watching other couples make love. They also like the fantasy of their partner watching as they have sex with another man or woman. Swingers clubs make this possible and are very popular as a result.
The fantasy of an ethereal lover, one who doesn’t come with tiresome emotional baggage, is very powerful. He comes to you at night and your pleasure is his pleasure. Some women claim they really have had sex with a ghost lover, but others have a vivid enough imagination to conjure up a spirit lover in the absence of anyone real.
There may have been good reasons why the relationship ended, but it doesn’t stop you fantasising about them if they were red hot in bed. However, you need to be careful not to let your sexy fantasies cloud the cold reality of what they were actually like as a partner.
Erotic fantasies are good for us because they add an extra layer of spice to the bedroom. Don’t forget to share, though, as your partner will love to hear all about your darkest desires.